The Lonely Writer

Writing and every other creative expression are solitary pursuits. Why does one writer feel like the lonely writer and another simply writing alone? 

Writing an article, a blog post, a short story, memoir, screenplay and multiple novels demands a concentrated focus. The more passionate you are about what you’re doing, the more the world around you drops away. You’re physically alone. Far from lonely, emersed in the flow of creativity, you’re intimately connected to the expression. 

In the Flow

You may be an extrovert who copes with the aloneness of writing by writing in crowded cafes, writing grottos, on public blogs, in critique groups, online chat rooms and writing platforms. Perhaps you’re an introvert who enjoys disappearing into your writing cave for hours, days, months and years. Either way, when you’re in the flow, loneliness is not what you’re feeling.  

Loneliness comes when you’re uncertain and insecure about what you’re doing. You doubt yourself and feel alone, separate and different from the flow of humanity around you. Isolated, the words refuse to come.

Loneliness often comes from the absence of affection and stems from sadness which is the loss of control over a source of love or attention. In other words, you want something and you feel you can’t have it.

How to Squelch Loneliness or Two Tips How to Ignite Passion for Your Story

1) Pre-plotting and re-plotting and final draft plotting on a Plot Planner allows you to step away from the uncertainty of the blank page. Stand back and visualize your story. Plot ideas along the Universal Story line. Fill in the blanks. Create a plan. Imagine scenes. The clearer your vision, the less uncertain you are. Excitement builds. A perfectly formed scene enters your mind. You’re off and writing, fully in the flow and connected to your expression.
For help plotting: How to Plot a Novel, Memoir, Screenplay? online video course

For those of you who struggle, not with loneliness, but the aloneness of writing, generate ideas brainstorming with others. Unfurl your Plot Planner and map out your major plot. You’ll enjoy the social aspect of brainstorming and end up with many more ideas to entertain than you may have alone.
For a step by step guide how to create a visual template for your unique expression: Writing Blockbuster Plots 

 2) If your loneliness seems to stem less from your writing and more like a general unease, low-grade depression, lack of energy, when you feel lonely even in a group of people, perhaps it’s time to go on an inward journey. Identify what beliefs are stopping or slowing you down. Discover what you really want. Understand what stands in your way. Create a plan forward.
Learn how: Secrets of Personal Transformation online video course